“Compatibility is not something you have to select on in advance. It's something you build. And if you have just that little bit of motivation to go and meet somebody, you can find common ground with almost anybody.”

…coming. I'm going to pick 16 arbitrarily. And it didn't matter who was on the list. Just having that little nudge, knowing, okay, there's somebody that was suggested for me. And also they're expecting me to come find them was enough to help people overcome the barrier of introducing themselves.

So the takeaway from that is what specifically, like it's not necessarily about some preset shared set of interests. It's about the sort of environmental dynamic and context that is creating the conditions for a greater degree of intimate conversation and therefore connection.

One of the things that was interesting for me in the book is what you had to say about some of our deepest and long, most kind of important, long-standing relationships. And as somebody at my age, like, I know what it's like to like lose touch with these people that you care about. The phone gets…

Yeah, a lot of people hesitate to reconnect because they think it's just been too long. And they think they violated some imaginary standard of if we haven't, if we haven't texted at least once a week, we haven't seen each other once a month, we're no longer friends. And or that

person's angry or stewing in resentment. Yeah, because you dropped me. Right. Yeah.